How to NOT connect the dots : Day 9 of 31

My friend was frustrated. She staged an event and the manager of one of the acts at the event got all selfish, acting like they were the only act that counted. The manager was in my friend’s face about what needed to be done for his band.

My friend was so angry and overwhelmed she wanted to blow.

But in a way that surprised even her, she decided to just stop and not push and to walk away and trust God. She didn’t know what would happen.

In the end the manager’s attitude caught up with him, and it turned out great without my friend blowing and she was so glad she chilled.

That’s a dot.

A week later she was sharing about an upcoming family trip and one family member who was always contrary and divisive. My friend was apprehensive about what would happen in the time they would be together.

She was told,

Uh, didn’t you just learn something about chilling and trusting and not depending on your own ability to make things work? And didn’t that turn out in a way that you could not have engineered yourself?

You could see the wheels turning.

Oh yeah.

She forgot to connect the dots.

Can you relate?


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Gary Morland helps you feel better about your most challenging family relationships, and helps you actually improve those relationships - all by adopting simple attitudes, perspectives, expectations, and actions (the same ones that changed him and his family).


  1. Shannon Dvorak

    Oh boy, can I relate! Thanks for sharing this great reminder – what short memories we have of His goodness to us. He is in control, we are just…not. Thank you :)

  2. Abbie

    Someone was just talking this morning about how we need to remember things that have happened in the past. Things God has done and been faithful in the past. And how that can be encouraging not only to others, but also to our “present” selves who may have forgotten. I’m glad she had a friend willing to call her on it. We all need that – whether we want it or not.

  3. Lisa Malaniak

    Perfect illustration of how we keep experiencing the same situation until we learn the lesson God has for us. I’m so there.

    • I handn’t thought of that, but yeah! First grade, then first grade, then first grade – that’s me too.

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