How to feel better today

Last week I felt like complaining and did. It felt good.

However later it felt blah. Nothing positive came of it. Complaining didn’t fix anything. It helped my wife a little because it helped her understand how I felt about some of our hopes and dreams, but it also was a downer for her.

Last night I felt like complaining but didn’t.

It was very hard to not complain. I was complaining big-time in my head and the pressure to let it out with my voice was like the teapot every night on the stove when it rumbles inside right before it busts out in a piercing whistle. You get a warning before it busts out.

So last night I shut up before the piercing whistle. I forced myself to keep it all a secret between God and me. It was an act of trust and intimacy with God. In some feeble way I was able to let it be enough that he knew, and to let him handle the satisfaction that I craved from venting externally.

I just shut up. On the outside it was very simple–just don’t. But inside it was a raging battle.

I’ve had success with this before, but later always go back to the easy way of depending on myself and acting by how I feel.

This morning I woke up with a sense of peace and power. A renewed confidence. There’s a lot to do but I don’t feel any pressure. All the stuff I felt like complaining about is the same, but it looks and feels different.

It’s as if God says, you want peace and power and intimacy with me–prove you trust me and you’ll get it.

I think this is basic, daily living by faith. Kindergarten stuff.

I try to jump to grad-school stuff  before I’ve learned the alphabet and counting to 20.

Every day you’re offered many little doorways that open with the key of everyday trust. Good things are in the rooms through those doors.

What adventures have you had in venting or trusting?

About the Author


Gary Morland helps you feel better about your most challenging family relationships, and helps you actually improve those relationships - all by adopting simple attitudes, perspectives, expectations, and actions (the same ones that changed him and his family).


  1. Nancy

    Great post! Very timely for me today. I too have felt like complaining (a lot) lately. And most of the time, I’ve been doing it. I feel like I don’t have any other choice but to get it out of my head. But your post gives me a new perspective. Thank you. This phrase in particular hit home for me: “In some feeble way I was able to let it be enough that he knew”. Because that’s how I feel when faced with a complaint that wants out of my head, that it’s hard to keep it in, that I don’t have enough strength to keep it in and trust him. Reading your experience on this same issue gives me strength to keep the faith. Again, thank you.

    • Thank YOU Nancy. And make sure you don’t read Philippians 2.14-15 – unless you want to be motivated even more.

  2. Gary Ware

    I have been an angry, confused, complaining person most of my life. In my 60s, the Light Bulb came on and I could see NO POSITIVE outcome in all those years. One day, in geologic time, I realized God had taken care of me and mine and WOULD continue, so I let the Peace of God grow into maturity within me.
    I still have to fight the dark, carnal, complaining side but it loses strength every time I shut my mouth.

  3. abbie

    Oh my. I think God is showing me how I have a negative attitude (including complaining) and how it has affected my marriage. God will be faithful to redeem the mess we’ve made.

  4. juli

    Thanks for the encouraging words.

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