You are a dot : Day 22 of 31

You are a dot.

“Well thanks Mr. Self-Esteem-Builder-Up-Man!”

No really, you’re a very nice dot! A wonderful dot! A rockin’ dot!

Okay, maybe not, or maybe you don’t feel that way. I don’t know. And that’s the point.

You are the only one who knows your insides, who knows the things going on in there. At the same time, because you’re so close to it – to YOU – it’s hard to get perspective. You’re the only one who can see your insides! And you can’t see anyone else’s insides!

You compare yourself to other people but that’s impossible because you’re incapable of seeing others the way you see yourself.

But you do it anyway!

And it’s the same for every other person. They do it too.

It’s easy to compare your insides with everyone else’s outsides. That’s all you’ve got. It’s easy for them to do that with you, too. That’s all they’ve got.

I don’t think we should do that.

You compare yourself to others to try to nail down your identity, but there’s not much nailing in that. All that comparing changes day-to-day, which means your identity can change daily. You can go your whole life never knowing who your are.

You really only make sense when you connect the dots, and the dot you have to start with is God.

You are a created thing

You didn’t make yourself up. You’re not your own idea.

Your maker knows how he made you. He knows your strengths, your weaknesses, your pace, your abilities, your potential, your limits. Did you ever think that maybe he did it on purpose? All of it?

He knows the level of your ability to deal with life depending on yourself (your natural ability), and depending on him (your supernatural ability). Did you ever think that he limited your ability so he could make up the difference?

Your life is being engineered

He engineered placing you in your family, with those parents and siblings, or without any of them. And he engineered your school and friends and job and marriage, or the lack of them. He’s overseen, or permitted, all your experiences and circumstances.

He created time, and how it moves, and how much there is. Weeks, days, hours, and minutes are the same for everyone. He knows what’s available to you today for any moment, for any project, for your life. He knows every interruption and glitch.

You have an assignment

You may not know exactly what that assignment is. You may only know looking back later. Or you may have a vision, a calling, a sense of mission that you sense right now. We’re all different.

He knows the assignment he’s given you and what it’s for. He knows everything involved and needed to do it. He knows it’s YOUR assignment, and he gave it fully aware of you and your limitations and the time available.

And oh yeah — he loves you more than you love yourself.

Now that IS a pretty rockin’ dot. But only because of the awesomeness of the dot creator, engineer, assigner, and lover.

And it doesn’t have anything to do with what’s on the inside or outside of anyone else.

How are you feeling right now?


Day 22 of 31 Days of Connecting the Dots: make more sense of your life, your world, your hopes and dreams. You can visit the Nester to choose from over 1,200 more 31 Dayers.

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Gary Morland helps you feel better about your most challenging family relationships, and helps you actually improve those relationships - all by adopting simple attitudes, perspectives, expectations, and actions (the same ones that changed him and his family).


  1. SeaStarArts

    I was feeling like an inefficient, underutilized, unloved DOT until now, thank you for that Monday KICK!

    • SeaStarArts

      And oh yeah — he loves you more than you love yourself. (I will make this into a HUGE SIGN and put it on the wall in my face!)

  2. Abbie

    I am so glad I don’t have to rely on my natural ability, but can let God use his power, love, patience, kindness, grace and forgiveness in me and through me to others. That is the biggest lesson I’ve learned this year. It’s all about Him and his strength and not about me and mine. I can rest in Him and He will do all the rest.

  3. Jennifer

    Of all the dot posts I’ve read…this one! The incredible tension in this one stirs my heart in deep places. Thank you!


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