Home is the place . . .

Don’t remember where I heard this, but it’s stuck with me:

Home is the place where family members go when they’re tired of being nice to other people.

Because, really, how long can you keep up that being nice thing?

If ‘nice’ is an external thing that you carry, it eventually gets heavy and at some point you have to set it down.

You set it down at home.

Here, I’ve thought of another one:

Home is the place where family members go when they need appreciation, love, acceptance, and encouragement.

Should be, anyway, right? But no matter what, the appreciation and love and acceptance is never enough, is it?

Seems like there’s two main ways a family goes:

Family members somehow gain security and get filled-up and then from that deep well foster acceptance and love with each other, and then from that ‘nice’ place the family goes out and is nice.


Empty people go out and act nice but it’s all external, you get tired, and you go back with your family and act like how you really feel. Empty. And you get mad because they don’t fill your cup. But they can’t. And you can’t fill theirs.

Because there’s a break in the cup that holds love inside us all. (a little song that explains everything)

But there’s a patch for the break:

My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus – Philippians 4.19

In him the whole fullness of deity dwells bodily, and you have been filled in him – Colossians 2.9-10

The love and acceptance of Jesus + the love and acceptance of family = a family able to love each other and others.

How do you help each other find love and acceptance?

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About the Author


Gary Morland helps you feel better about your most challenging family relationships, and helps you actually improve those relationships - all by adopting simple attitudes, perspectives, expectations, and actions (the same ones that changed him and his family).


  1. Pam M

    thank you SO much for sharing your thoughts-they are life changing

  2. m

    By loving them unconditionally…mix in some TLC, add as much grace as you need, & a whole lot of Jesus:) that’s how…thanks (yet again), G for your wisdom!!!
    Blessings & <3

  3. Julie

    Spot on! I agree 100 with your thoughts here, thank you Gary :) I pray that my family are the ones I show the Most grace and Love, for they definitely give me the most joy and comfort :)

  4. lyricpdx

    Great post, Gary. Really good song, too…love it, wish I wrote it! Sad, but some people don’t realize there’s a break in their cup and still try to force you to fill it and get very angry when their cup doesn’t stay full. The best thing we can do is pray, because any other action is never enough.

    • it’s easy to forget your cup’s broken – I forget all the time :)

      • lyricpdx

        But then you remember, Gary, and realign. Some don’t.

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