Jesus wins – with guidance and results

Need guidance?

Oh for an expert! Someone experienced, and who knows you and each member of your family and your goals and frustrations. Someone to explain and tell you what to do in the middle of all this. Mom? Mom would work but she’s tangled up in everything too. Or gone. Or the problem.

You do your best but it’s way short. Or you make it worse. You’ve got the experience, the effort, the ability. Some say you’re way above average in all those. But it’s sure not showing and you give up and don’t know what to do next.

And he sat down and taught the people from the boat. And when he had finished speaking, he said to Simon, “Put out into the deep and let down your nets for a catch.”

And Simon answered, “Master, we toiled all night and took nothing! But at your word I will let down the nets.”

And when they had done this, they enclosed a large number of fish, and their nets were breaking. They signaled to their partners in the other boat to come and help them. And they came and filled both the boats, so that they began to sink.

– Luke 5.3-7

He’s not a mom or dad, never toilet trained a kid or waited up for a daughter. He never lost his temper and blew it and had to live with regret over his behavior. He never fixed a flat tire or planned a budget. He was no expert fisherman. But he told the experts where to catch fish and they did. More than they could on their own.

Sometimes when I’m doing a project at home and lose a screw or can’t make something fit together, I ask Jesus to help me. Isn’t that trite? Something good always happens. I do that less often when I’m lost on the road because, you know, I’m a guy. I do it even less often it seems with the big stuff.

He’s not an expert or master because of experience. It’s Deity. He’s the only one of those.

Need results?

You’re putting in the work. You’ve followed the guidance. And you see nothing. Is this a waste? Do you quit? What do you do when it’s all so fruitless? Hope is hard when there’s nothing to see.

The son can do nothing by himself; he can only do what he sees his father doing

– John 5.19

I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.

– John 15

Jesus didn’t try what I try. He had the deity and didn’t trust it for himself – I DON’T have deity but trust myself as if I do!

This isn’t advice, but it makes sense to me: When I feel fruitless, I’ve told God, out loud, “You say if I abide in you, that if I stay in you and find my source of living in you, that I WILL bear fruit. So Lord, either I’m bearing fruit and you just don’t want me to see it, or I’m NOT remaining in you.” I have to keep it simple.

To remain in him I continue to keep it simple. Just trust him and his love and purpose. Follow the best I can. Truuuuuust. I don’t try to earn results by performing or doing some ritual like keeping my quiet time; I keep my quiet time to help me remain in him. Remaining is trusting.

Trust for the next step and take it. And trust no matter what is seen or not seen. I try not to trust for results, but only for my personal relationship with him. That relationship is the biggest result.

What’s God saying to you about YOUR family?

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A Family Like Yours is 31 Days of encouragement to help you appreciate, influence, and love the family you have (no matter what).

This is day 16.

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About the Author


Gary Morland helps you feel better about your most challenging family relationships, and helps you actually improve those relationships - all by adopting simple attitudes, perspectives, expectations, and actions (the same ones that changed him and his family).


  1. Love this. I love the way you convey such ancient wisdom in such a contemporary way. I can see where your daughter, Emily, gets it from. What a family! And thank you, by the way, for providing a blog for men like my husband who so relates to what you write. Its a market dominated by women. So this is a refreshing, much needed blog. Siobhan (UK)

  2. Sue

    “He’s not an expert or master because of experience. It’s Deity. He’s the only one of those.” And to think He lives in me…what amazing grace!!

  3. Lizajanie

    So simple. So true. So needed. Thanks Gary.

  4. m

    Good question…not entirely sure, but one thing HE keeps reminding me of is this; I’m hemmed in, the front & back:) Such a comfort in that…blessings & <3 M
    Ps. Thanks again, G! Sure enjoying this…

  5. Pam Cason

    Simple packed with powerful truth.

  6. Sarah

    Hi Emily’s dad, I didn’t know you had a blog until Emily shared it on Twitter. Thanks for giving us Emily and ‘The Nester’; I’m really enjoying her 31 Days series, and thank you for your writing.
    Hi Emily’s dad, I didn’t know you had a blog until I saw Emily share it on Twitter. Thanks for giving us Emily, and ‘The Nester’; I’m really enjoying her 31 Days series, and thank you for your writing.

    • Tondra Denise

      Yes, thank you Sarah for saying just what I was feeling. I found Emily first, and then this blog, and I have found myself falling in love with this entire family in just a matter of days! Thank you for sharing all of your gifts with us!! God is speaking through you…

    • thanks for your encouragement sarah :)

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