Patience wins

I drank three quarts of beer a day for fourteen years. I knew I’d never change – I tried too many times. It was hopeless.

It’s been 27 years since my last beer.

My wife Brenda suffered anxiety and lack of peace for more than a decade. She was a peace-less Christian.

She’s been experiencing the peace and rest of Jesus for fifteen years.

She prayed for ten years for me to believe in Jesus. This month makes 25 years since I believed.

Five years ago the Nester’s family had $150,000 in business debt. Hopeless. Today she’s debt free and just bought a little farm.

One family in the Bible was about as dysfunctional a train wreck as a family could be. Murder. Adultery. Rape. They were Jacob’s kids. The twelve tribes of Israel. The family Jesus came from.

Patience is not weenie wishing and hoping. Patience is not pretending.

Patience means the willingness to stay where we are and live the situation out to the full in the belief that something hidden there will manifest itself to us

– Henri Nouwen

Because I see these kinds of things God does over time, I can be patient.

I know what can happen and how things can change, no matter how it looks now.

Seen any little hidden things manifested in your family through patience?

A Family Like Yours is 31 Days of encouragement to help you appreciate, influence, and love the family you have (no matter what).

This is day 4.

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About the Author


Gary Morland helps you feel better about your most challenging family relationships, and helps you actually improve those relationships - all by adopting simple attitudes, perspectives, expectations, and actions (the same ones that changed him and his family).


  1. Pam Cason

    I read The Nester’s debt-free story. Wow. So encouraging and gives me hope for our own situation as we whittle away at it one pay-off at a time.

    • remember she said the math didn’t add up – they payed off more than the calculator said was possible. Once you commit and start going down the road, supernatural things happen. Works that way in lots of things Thx Pam :)

      • Pam Cason

        Yes, I know it works and I’ve seen HIM work. It’s the patience through the process that is often the challenge.

  2. Mindy

    I wish I had a book of all these thoughts you share. I know God placed these things on your heart to write, because this is exactly what I need right now. And yes, grace wins patience wins. I’ve seen some evidence hallelujah!!!

  3. m

    My beautiful babies, blossoming & growing, in their identity in Christ! Its such an amazing sight, to watch these blessings grow/change/become who they are in Him! Thank you, G…such a blessing in my life:)
    Blessings & <3

    • have a great wknd m

      • m

        Ps. How did you know there would be “lots of candy corn?” We love the stuff…so good!!! Happy wknd 2 u as well, G:) <3 M

  4. Robin in New Jersey

    A year ago today, my life seemed very bleak, my husband and I separated, I had no money to pay the bills or even buy groceries. Today, this very afternoon, we will be reunited and God has kept his hand on my children and I and been gracious to us. I still have a mountain of bills to pay, and the house may have to go into foreclosure, but I KNOW without a doubt that God’s hand is all over our lives. Now to be patient for the next year while he works out his perfect will. Thank you for sharing, Gary. You have given us much hope for our future.

    • Thank you for sharing that Robin, and for being a wonderful encouragement.

  5. Margaret

    Thank you for sharing your gift of words and sharing the quote from Henry Nouwen. I love it when he defines patience as, “…the willingness to stay where we are and live the situation out to the full in the belief that something hidden there will manifest itself to us.” I am so encouraged by that godly statement.
    My mom had a severe stroke 2 years ago and it has been quite a journey. It has been an emotional rollercoaster (not too fond of rollercoasters, I might say) of dealing with her new life, my responsibilities as the youngest of three who has the responsibility for her affairs, and traveling 4 hours to see her. The family relationships have been a challenge and rather disappointing. I will hold on knowing The Lord is with me and I will “be still” with Him. That what I have to do. He has done a good work in me through this season of life and I look forward, with much encouragement from you, to what He will show me next!

  6. Carrie

    Thank you for these words. They help me see the bigger picture.


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